ABOUT

The word "sound" refers to something being solid, secure, and stable because it is free from flaw or defect.
Conflict is a force that disrupts, damages, or even destroys the soundness of relationships--with God, with others, and with ourselves. Sound Conciliation is committed to helping people pursue peace amidst the chaos of conflict, which swirls all around us, as well as in each of us. By pursuing peace, we participate in God's redemptive work to restore the soundness of God's creation.  

foundations

Sound Conciliation is committed to offering conciliation services that are consistent with biblical principles and practices. This does not mean that people who do not profess to be Christians cannot participate in or benefit from a Christian conciliation process. In fact many people who do not profess to be Christians express appreciation for an opportunity to address conflict in a structured and respectful fashion. All participants in a conciliation process are treated with respect and dignity, regardless of their personal beliefs and values.

Christian conciliation rests on the foundation of God's love for us, expressed most clearly and powerfully through the Gospel of Jesus Christ. In light of God's great love for us, we in turn are called and empowered to love one another. Christian conciliation provides an opportunity to address the ways we have failed to love one another in order to promote peace and restore a loving and healthy relationship.  

In order to do this effectively and consistently, Sound Conciliation is committed to abiding by the ethical standards published in the ICC Rules of Procedure for Christian Conciliation.

Pursuing peace

In many marriages, families, and organizations, people are taught to keep the peace at any cost by avoiding conflict. But the reality is avoiding conflict doesn't keep peace; it simply maintains a false sense of peace--the supposed absence of conflict. This is often motivated by self-protection and a desire for comfort and ease.

In order to make true and lasting peace, people must be willing to respectfully and honestly engage conflict out of a desire to love others. This includes honestly confessing our part in a conflict by questioning our thoughts, beliefs, motives, actions, and attitudes, as well as lovingly confronting another person's part in a conflict. When this occurs, people in conflict are able to seek and extend forgiveness, which reconciles broken relationships and provides an opportunity for those relationships to be restored.

Types of conflict

Christian conciliation can be utilized to address and resolve a wide range of conflicts, including personal and substantive issues. A conciliation process is comprehensive in nature, allowing parties to address conflicts related, but not limited, to:
trauma
grief and loss
abuse and neglect
addiction (substance and sexual)
adultery
leadership and team dynamics

contractual disputes

conciliation process

There are five distinct phases to a conciliation process. 

CONsultation

All parties are educated about the conciliation process to determine whether or not to move forward. 

case management

Dates and location of the conciliation are determined, and all necessary forms are completed. 

coaching

All parties and non-parties complete a series of assignments to help them prepare for the conciliation. 

conciliation

This face-to-face event follows a five-stage process, which parties have prepared for in advance.

care plan

An ongoing care plan is created based on the outcomes of the conciliation event. 

conciliator's role

The role of a conciliator is to facilitate a wise and loving process to help all parties share their own story and listen to the other parties' stories in order to gain insights and identify issues that need to be addressed. If the parties are able to reconcile, the conciliator then helps the parties create a plan for pursuing restoration, which would include a plan for rebuilding trust, respect, communication, and closeness. A conciliation process is almost always difficult, but conciliators are committed to walking with parties along the way to support and guide them.

church partnership

Sound Conciliation honors and upholds the authority given to the local church, and desires to cooperate and collaborate in ways that are beneficial to all involved. Therefore, Sound Conciliation encourages parties to find ways to appropriately include leaders and members from their church in the conciliation process. 

care team

Even though conflict is often overwhelming, many people attempt to deal with conflict on their own. This often leads to further isolation and feelings of hopelessness.  

One of the ways to combat this reality is to identify and invite a group of mature and trustworthy individuals to be a part of a Care Team. This group of people can include family, friends, counselors, pastors, small group leaders, or anyone else committed to walking with parties as they pursue peace. Rather than choosing sides or advocating for one party's interests, these individuals work together as a team to promote peaceful resolutions, ongoing healing, and future health. 

Sound Conciliation carefully screens these individuals and provides coaching and ongoing support in order to equip them to care well for those experiencing conflict. 

CONTACT

If you are seeking assistance with any type of conflict, please contact me directly for more information.
I provide a no-cost, no-obligation consultation to discuss helpful options that best meet your unique needs.