PREPARING FOR A CONCILIATION

Below is a list of all the prep assignments for you to complete in advance of your conciliation.
These assignments are meant to help you organize your thoughts and prepare your heart for your conciliation. The amount of time and effort you put into these assignments will greatly impact the effectiveness of the conciliation process.

Your case manager will indicate if any adjustments or additions will be made to these assignments, and will also provide due dates for particular assignments. If at any point you have any questions about any of the assignments, feel free to contact your case manager.

forms and agreements 

Please begin by completing both of the forms below:

  • Client Registration Form: Each adult receiving services must complete a separate Client Registration Form. This data will be entered into an electronic database and you may be contacted by email, phone, or mail.

  • Conciliation Services Agreement: This form provides information to help you understand what you can expect from conciliation services and includes a place for you to sign, indicating that you consent to enter into a conciliation process with Sound Conciliation.
In order to gain the most from a conciliation process, a thorough understanding of the process and the ground rules help parties maximize their investment of time, energy, and financial resources. Please read through the Conciliation Process & Ground Rules and answer the questions at the end of each section.

reading assignment

In order to help you understand what Christian conciliation is all about, please read The Peacemaker by Ken Sande or Resolving Everyday Conflict (similar content but condensed) by Ken Sande and Kevin Johnson before the conciliation.
Storytelling is the heart of a conciliation process. Each person is asked to tell their own personal story, and to take care not to look to others to tell their story for them. To help you prepare to tell your story, please create a Personal Story Timeline, using the information on this page as a guide.
A Vision Statement is an opportunity to express your hoped-for outcomes for the conciliation process. You will read your Vision Statement word-for-word toward the beginning of the conciliation process. Please create a Vision Statement, using the information on this page as a guide.
A Log List will help you focus on how your words, actions, and attitudes have contributed to the conflict. Please create a Log List, using the information on this page as a guide.
A Speck List will help you focus on how the other party's words, actions, and attitudes have contributed to the conflict. Please create a Speck List, using the information on this page as a guide.
A conciliation process is meant to help people identify, address, and resolve both personal and material issues. Creating an Issues List, using the information on this page as a guide, will help you identify what issues you would like to see addressed during the conciliation process.